No one is born a mom. It’s a long, challenging process filled with learning, sacrifice, and many life changes. Do you know what makes it even worse? Getting advice from people on how you can do it better.
You’re already stressed out enough! The constant reminders that you should be doing things differently make you question everything you do. And let me tell you this – people will have comments on everything you do. From how you feed your baby, to how you put her down to sleep.
Yes, it is frustrating, and you shouldn’t feel bad for feeling this way! Motherhood is supposed to be a wonderful experience. You’re supposed to be learning and growing together with your baby. What makes people believe that they have the right to become a part of it?
If this is your first time being a mom, comments from other women can be hard to ignore. After all, you probably have no idea what you’re doing, despite all of the books you’ve read during your pregnancy.
Still, holding your baby in your arms, listening to her heartbeat, and becoming one with her will tell you everything you need to know. Deep down, you know it, too. Unfortunately, the voices of other people can become louder than your own instincts.
I see hundreds of moms putting each other down all over social media. Instead of learning from each other and embracing diversity, they try to push their ways and methods in front of everybody else’s. The truth is, there is no right or wrong way to be a mom, as long as you prioritize your baby’s well-being.
No matter how hard it is, it’s important that you set boundaries. Yes, even if it means you’ll thank your mom for her advice, but still do what you think is best for your little one. Because, after all, you’re the only woman in the world who knows your baby.
She grew up under your heart, you gave birth to her, and you spend every moment of your day by her side. How could anyone know her better than you? By setting boundaries, you’ll become the best mom you can be.
There’s nothing more powerful than a mother’s instinct. No amount of books and articles you read can beat the feeling you get in your gut. Once you allow it to be louder than the voices of other moms who constantly bombard you with unnecessary comments, it will show you the true beauty of motherhood.
Listen to what other women tell you, thank them for sharing their experiences, and still do what you know how to do best – being the only person who knows your baby and her needs. The only ones you should listen to are your doctors, everyone else’s experiences shouldn’t worry you.
Just as every person is unique, so is every child. One mom’s experiences have nothing to do with yours because both of you are raising two different babies who probably don’t have a lot in common.
My sister-in-law and my friend gave birth a couple of weeks apart, and I was blessed enough to watch two beautiful babies grow. Let me tell you one thing – although both of them are two perfectly healthy babies, they couldn’t be more different.
I’m always amazed by how unique my little niece is. There’s nothing any mom could share that could change the way my sister-in-law treats her baby. Why? Because she knows every part of her little being, and no one else in the world can change that.
Don’t get me wrong, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with seeking advice and guidance from other moms. Ultimately, however, you should trust your motherly instincts because they’re the best guide you could have, given to you by mother nature herself.
You’re blessed with the mother’s intuition, so don’t ignore it. It’s that little voice that tells you when something’s not quite right, even when it seems perfectly fine to the people around you.
Once you start listening to your gut more than the comments of other people, you’ll be able to make decisions that are in your baby’s best interests.
After all, other people’s opinions are not facts. I know they’re just trying to help you, especially if they have more experience than you. Don’t brush them off, listen to what they have to say, but don’t take it as something set in stone.
My mom always says how my brother, my sister, and I were three completely different babies. Each time she gave birth, it felt like it was her first time. She learned with us, and we learned with her, and that’s what motherhood is all about.
What worked for one mom and her baby, might not work for you – and it’s okay if it doesn’t. The worst thing you can do is compare yourself to other moms. It will take all the joy of motherhood from you. Instead, enjoy your unique experience, and savor every moment with your baby.
Watch her grow, develop, and listen to her body language. It will tell you everything you should know.
There is no right way to be a parent. You love your baby and you’d do everything to make her happy. That’s what makes you the best mom.
Motherhood is a beautiful journey that will transform your life. Yes, it’s challenging and overwhelming at times, but those moments help you learn and become better for your baby.
Relying on other people’s opinions will make you doubt your abilities as a parent. That’s the last thing your baby needs. Instead, stay off social media for a while, and don’t give too much thought to other people’s experiences.
Be present with your baby. Recognize her needs, and stay close to her. That’s all she needs, and there’s no better way to be the best mom she could have. Once you realize that your baby and your motherly instincts are the only guides you need, you’ll enjoy every moment of being a mom.
